June 6, 2017
When Grief Knocks….
Grief knocked unexpectedly at my door…….
I did not want to let him in.
I actually thought that I had met him before and knew what there was to know about him, but he insisted on coming in and accompanying me on this newer and deeper journey, this frightening place of losing my self control, of carrying a crushing weight that I feared would kill me dead, like the loved one I had just lost, his sole reason for this visit.
Why NOW?
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Grief is a hard tutor, but the lessons we learn when grief takes us in hand are invaluable and precious.
Grief takes us where we do not ever want to go, but apparently must, and to places we do not want to visit but have to, for our instruction and so that we can be made whole again.
Grief brings some rather unwelcome companions with him, Pain, Sorrow and Longing, and they move in to do the necessary work, for however long it takes.
They are a team.
We will often get stuck, and that’s ok, for as long as is really necessary, but we will discover that we cannot stay there, we especially cannot wallow there forever, even though we will find that we do need to remain until the healing is complete.
It may seem like forever.
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If Faith arrives at the door and wants to visit, please don’t turn her away. You will find you will need her, even though you may wonder if you can trust her. She is the one who will bring peace, and even beauty, into Grief’s visit. She is the true source of your healing.
You may feel she has let you down somehow, but she has not. She has always been there, on the sidelines of your life, waiting for your invitation to join you, to uphold you, and now she comes to show you new depths on the journey and to accompany you steadfastly through them. Give her your hand and hold on tight for she is the one who will nourish and sustain you when you feel like you cannot go on or that you will never get out of this place Grief and his companions have taken you.
Trust her, because she is the soothing balm you will need and the promise of peace and new life, if you allow her to do the work she has come to do in you. You need her.
Faith will bring Comfort to visit on the last leg of your journey. She will see you through to the end.
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Our new companions are difficult but necessary.
Learn what you can and share with others who are struggling on this same journey.
That is part of your healing.
The land (of your life) that has been “laid to waste” will revive and be made new.
Isaiah 51:3
Indeed, the LORD will comfort Zion; He will comfort all her waste places. And her wilderness He will make like Eden, And her desert like the garden of the LORD; Joy and gladness will be found in her, Thanksgiving and sound of a melody.”
Your long “night” of mourning will turn to your new day of joy.
That’s a promise.
Your life will “sing” again.
Faith will bring you safely home.
Our Hope is in God, who is faithful.
Love and prayers
AJ ❤
Hi Ann, this is very touching, insightful, thought-provoking, and so true. I sometimes wonder if grief, pain, sorrow, and longing have another purpose in our lives: They make us realize that eternity with Christ in Heaven is so much more desirable than anything this world has to offer. Thank you for sharing this post, Ann.
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Yes, I agree with your thoughts on heaven and think you may well be right that grief eventually draws us closer to heaven in our thoughts and longings…..
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God bless. I’ve experienced this in the past year as an estranged parent. It’s a bit different, but many say being “cut off” by a living child is much like death with no closure. It is so very hard to lose someone we love so very very much.
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Thank you.
The very final separation of death is an awfully hard pill to swallow. There is no hope of seeing them again in this life, no chance at reconciliation, but at least there is the hope of heaven for a believer, and that’s what I cling to.
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Belief is critical. I am with you.
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